Sexual Addiction
Why does it always end in shame?
It doesn’t matter who you’re with, what you do, or how many times you do it – after your sexual encounters, you’re ultimately left feeling shameful and hopeless.
You’d rather keep your mental and emotional bandwidth focused elsewhere, but you can’t help obsess over the next encounter and the mounting consequences of living a secret life.
Openness and connection in your relationships is impossible because of the growing pile of secret lovers, affairs, and sexual encounters that could have seriously hurt you or another person.
It’s odd how something so pleasurable and exciting can make you feel so awful and afraid.
Sex wasn’t supposed to work like this for you.
If they really knew me, they would reject me.
It’s a common story. What started out as normal curiosity and sexual experience quickly got very serious.
Both men and women can find themselves trapped in intense and often dangerous sexual situations because of the rush it gives them.
That rush doesn’t come from sex itself, it comes from being transported out of powerlessness, shame, and vulnerability into an experience that makes you feel alive and in control – for now.
For many sex addicts, there’s an intense fear of being fully seen and really known.
Sometimes, abuse, rejection, or neglect leave a person with a false belief that they’re worthless and that nobody could really love them if they knew them.
Sex provided tangible access to something that felt like being cared for.
Sex was a way to feel powerful and in control. When it feels like nobody can resist you, why does it matter that important people in the past left you?
Reaching the end of your rope can change everything.
The near arrest, the positive STI test, the devastating discovery of your secret sexual life can all be the confrontation with the truth you have needed.
“I can’t keep living like this.”
“Sex is destroying my life.”
These moments of clarity give you an opportunity to do something different.
I’m here to help you figure out what that something is.
Sex doesn’t have to be destructive.
The best part is, you don’t have to believe that sex is the enemy in order to stop the destructive cycle.
In fact, one of my wishes for my clients is that they have a fulfilling and exciting sex life – one that doesn’t bring them to a point of shame or desperation.
We’ll work together to understand why you’ve developed the patterns you have.
You’ll discover the rush of learning how to be fully present and eventually vulnerable with safe people.
Isolation and shame can be replaced with a life you love living.